Desperate & Dating

Times have changed. Technology has evolved, but people's social interactions have de-volved. The traditional values and etiquette of yester-year have almost completely disappeared. The concept of going on a date sounds foreign to most ears because so few people have an old-fashioned romance anymore. Dating is even harder when you throw in the reality of being gay in a straight world.

Most gay men are seeking sex with each flirtation, if both players are men, then what's stopping them? In a world where sex before a relationship is the norm, how are the few who want a relationship supposed to date? If every player goes right for the goal, how are we supposed to enjoy the game?

In my experience as a young gay man, most guys my age only want sex. While I can understand being in your prime and wanting to hump every cute guy that catches your purple eye, I wonder why more of them don't want something deeper? I'm not prude by any sense, but if I had a choice between sex with the same amazing man every time, or someone always different, I would go with my man!

Unfortunately, I don't have a man. However, I'm always on a quest to find an amazing man to fulfill my desires. So far without any luck. I have gone on several first dates, and a handful of second dates. Even though gay guys don't seem to date much, they will give it a try with the hope of getting lucky that night. They think that if they indulge the romantic in me, that I will satisfy the horn-dog in them. Fair warning to you if this sounds like your resume, but I can spot these guys very quickly, even through a message online. Which is precisely why I have gone on so many dates; if I begin to suspect you are grabbing for more than the bill, then no second date for you.

The uncountable amounts of dates have taken a toll on my psyche. After a while I began to lower my standards, they weren't that high to begin with, but there were a couple things I was willing to throw out. Now my standards are right where they should be–at a normal healthy level. While the people in my life tell me I shouldn't settle because I'm a great catch, I can't help and wonder if my looming desperation is causing me to overlook a few flaws? Some, maybe, that shouldn't be swept under the rug.

So in my journey to find "my guy", the desperation to be with someone makes me wonder if I'm playing make-believe. Is he really out there? Or should I focus on the guy in front of me who seems "good enough"? If there's no spark, should I try to make this work? Is desperation stronger than chemistry?

Hopefully I will find out soon,
Until next time...

~city boi

WiFi? Where?

Hey all you PSU Vikings, City Boi here with a quick trick you might like to know. I love Starbucks as much as the next sleep deprived student, but when I want to sit at a cafe and work on my computer I have to go somewhere I can get WiFi, and unfortunately Starbucks is exclusive to At&t web access. So if you are one of the many people, who like myself, love Starbucks but need to use the Internet (and don't have At&t), try going to the Starbucks on campus located on 6th & Jackson at the bottom of the Broadway building. The PSU General Access WiFi signal is at full strength even sitting inside Starbucks. Now you can sip your grande mocha frappuccino and research that paper all in one place.

Who knows, maybe I'll see you there...(except you won't see me ;-)

xoxo,
~cb